Comments on: Radical honesty

By: Jerry

Jerry — Thu, 07 May 2009 01:53:20 +0000

I arrived here from a Google search on “Lie to me blink” because I also immediately noticed the connection between the show and Malcolm Gladwell’s chapter from his book, Blink. And then I clicked over to this post.

There are two missing elements to your radical honesty formula; love and safety. Love requires us to hold our tongues and not simply blurt out truth in any situation. And safety (emotional safety) requires us to limit the people to whom we are radically honest, as it will be those people who have the power to inflict emotional damage on us. Extending that type of honesty should only be toward safe people.

But with these two factors, radical honesty seems like a great idea. I’m sure it would have a price; some people really wouldn’t like what they discovered about us, and visa versa. But the value of the depth of the relationships we would experience would be worth it.

By: Lie to Me | Josh Mock

Lie to Me | Josh Mock — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 01:28:02 +0000

[...] show was suggested to me by a friend because one of the supporting characters practices the idea of radical honesty. However, I was more intrigued after the introduction to the show because everything he was saying [...]

By: Josh Mock

Josh Mock — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 22:49:02 +0000

Hmm but maybe if you showed that side of you more, you’d be more motivated to improve yourself.

You make a very good point though. If everyone did this, we’d all hate each other. For a while anyway.

By: leah

leah — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 22:37:57 +0000

PS see! there’s the first part of my original post! im such a douchebag.

By: leah

leah — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 22:36:58 +0000

ive just discovered a specific reluctance with “radical honesty”:

despite our best efforts, it is not uncommon for the better of us to focus on the negative aspects in our daily goings on. to prove this, i began my own paragraph of ‘radical honesty’ and found that by the time i reached the fourth statement of ‘radical honesty’ i was apathetic, even to my own woes; it was an astounding adimancy to not caring. and they were MY problems!

it didnt take much for me to realize why i dont tell people everything: im a negative, complaining, whiny, at times self-righteous, always right-never wrong, know-it-all that people dont want to hang out with if all i ever did was let what’s truly bothering me spill out of my mouth.

trust me, it’s best i keep those things locked up until im too drunk to care and i still dont get the guy at the end of the nite.

By: leah

leah — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 22:24:20 +0000

i think the phrase “radical honesty” sounds new age. i despise new age and its culture. i was very discouraged (until recently) that people were willing to donate to every other cause posted except the cause i had posted. it’s frustrating to give money to everyone every year and when i ask on behalf of a cause, i get peanuts! im over that now.